5 Tips to overcome from relationship insecurity

STOP BEING INSURE AND HAVE WHAT LIFE IS GIVING YOU INSTEAD OF HAVING FEELING OF LOSING......... IT TRY TO ENJOY!!!

I have been spending time on quora (where people ask questions )for a while where I got to know more than 60% have some type of insecurity in their relationship. today we will be working on the issue that why you have that insecurity and how you can overcome it. This is not limited to girls but even boys can read it and take advantage of it. If you like the ways I am about to tell you then please let me know in the below comments.

1.Past is Past

 

What is this insecurity is all about?

There are two types of security here 

 

A.this is a type of security most people have when they are in 2 or 3 or more relationships than 1.the reason you have this insecurity is when you know that you have not ended the past relationship on good terms. 

B.there are few incidents that happened in the past which you are afraid might affect your current relationship or future relationship. this incident is not related to your past relationships (love life) it is related to a traumatic incident with you or that happened to close ones. this can be dangerous one can kill your confidence to be in a relationship

How to overcome

In case A: Get closure (end the unresolved issue )that is the most important thing before you can go into any new relationship. The unresolved issue can give back all the bad memories and experiences you went through in the last relationship. If you have not done the full closure you might end up losing confidence to have a perfect long-term relationship.

In case B.I know the fact that giving advice is easy but following is difficult. Try to forget about the traumatizing situation that happened in the past is past." Everything that happens once can never happen twice. But everything that happens twice will surely happen a third time".trauma accident happens once and might happen again to you. Try to forget and move forward with life.ITs are not easy.Try to have baby steps. try to make friends, go outside have a hobby. life will give plenty of chances to have a beautiful and honest relationship/Life in the future. Don't hold yourself. Don't make it hard on your nobody can help you except you

An important point to remember

1.Be Honest

2.Have closure (with your ex or past)

3.Be confident

4.Lose the insecurity it won't help you. it will drag you down

2. Fear of Ex-boyfriend

 What is this insecurity is all about:Either it will be point 1 or you have a feeling that your ex is still a better person than your current boyfriend/girlfriend. If you have felt like this you have insecurity to your relationship at the next level. there can be two possibilities one you are still in love with your ex or you have marked your standard too high that your current boy/girlfriend is not able to fulfill your needs.

How to overcome: You must understand past is past and as your ex is no more in your life you should not think or compare your current relationship to the previous one. your insecurity can cause you the current and happy relationship you have. Pst is never going to be your future stop trying to make him/her like your ex and accept the person as it is and have another beautiful experience. stop being insecure and have what life is giving you.

An important point to remember

1.     1,Stop comparing 

2.    2. appreciate what you have now

3.     3.be true to him

4.     Do not keep secret about a past relationship

3.Family, Class, etc

 

What is this insecurity is all about:I can tell you about Indian society where two people are more concerned about the family and their class difference before going into the relationship. Especially in India people where people prefer to fall in love with some from their class /cast. when you are in a relationship where the people are from different community cast then you tend to develop insecurity about the relationship and often fail to keep up the relationship

How to overcome:if you are confident enough to be in a relationship be confident to face the ups and down .there is nothing called free lunch. life won't give eveything on silver platter. you have to face those people.beign insrecure wont help you in long run. to overcome your insecurity you have to face the facts that people will and family and fight them. IF you love him/her you will know he/she is worth fighting .stop being insecure and start being confident 

An important point to remember

Go with flow

Be confident 

money age is just numbers

cast and creed is for uneducated ones

 

4.Beauty and the beast 

What is this insecurity is all about:Most of the couples, these days are just more into the looks than the person underneath it. This is just one of the myths people have to develop insecurity between them.He/she deserves better OR in some cases, I deserve a better-looking person. When you are feeling this then you are partner will increase the insecurity about the relationship. don't let other people feel how beautiful or handsome a person can be and they are not .this type of behavior  encourage to lose confidence in your partner

 How to overcome:if you feel that person around you is making you feel insecure then you are in the wrong relationship. There can be two reasons the person is behaving one is where he wants you to be more confident and help you to grow your personality or he is more into someone he/she cannot have and you are in the wrong relationship. In either case, if you feel you need to develop you can take advise how one is looking or wearing right types of cloth or their confidence. And if you are interested in changing yourself then get out of the relationship this insecurity will be there if you keep having an insecure feeling.

An important point to remember

1.     your decision to change yourself

2.     Don't let anyone judge you

3.     few changes won't hurt if you care for him/her

 

5. Education

What is this insecurity is all about: This type of insecurity arises in you when you feel another person is more educated more mature and more sensible than you. if you feel that whatever the person is saying should always be true, just because he more educated then you need to make some changes in your relationship, you have this feeling and as the days pass by these feelings will be getting stronger. Those people who have the insecurity is not limited to education it can be career-related status-related

How to overcome:Now there can be plenty of suggestions but as I have been through I can tell you it's so hard to overcome your insecurity. the important thing to remember is you are no less than any other girl you wish to be. the main key is confidence.If you don't have confidence pretend to have one .girls are very good at acting so it will create the illusion that you are not insecure and slowly and gradually overcome your security

An important point to remember

1.     confidence is key

2.     Act like your confidence

3.     don't show your insecurity to anyone